Competing with each other is an inherent part of human existence. The need to be definitively better than others – or at least peers – pushes us to work on ourselves, as individuals, as well as groups. And competing with others isn’t remotely unique to humans; animals literally compete for survival. So it shouldn’t come as a surprise, when competition – no matter at what scale – forms the basis of a variety of things we do at workplace.
However, problem arises when the all-consuming feeling of rivalry takes over the innocent and simple desire to outdo competition. When the focus shifts from the competition to the individual, and you create a nemesis, which you must trounce, the dreaded ‘R’ word has taken over. Unaddressed, rivalry between colleagues can result in undue stress, troubled team dynamics, bitterness, jealousy, or latent anger, all of which set the stage for a much more turbulent impending conflict.
Rivalry between two colleagues can often be traced to a petty professional disagreement, but might quickly snowball into a rivalry of what your position is, how much responsibilities you hold, whose office is bigger, pay scale, and so on
Luckily for you, the tensions won’t escalate to such dangerous levels in your case,Thanks to www.peoplematters.in If there is someone at work who sees you as a rival or threat, here are some handy tips to help you deal with it the right way
Understand the source of resentment
First off, introspect the reasons that led to such a situation. Did they outperform you at your job? Is it merely a difference of perspectives, and personalities, or are they actually working to undermine your work? Have you only heard others say that they were overly critical of you, or have you heard the criticism yourself? Delve deeper and reach the crux of the issue, before it became the over-arching, heavy and tense question it is today.
Refrain from taking pot-shots
It’s tempting to give a (well-rehearsed) sassy answer to a rival in front of others, but for your own sake – don’t. Not only does it push the resolution further away, but makes you vulnerable to being thrown under the bus as well. Most people don’t let a beating to their ego go by unnoticed, and get even at the first opportunity they get. The best policy is not to provoke.
Don’t ask others to pick a side
Never (ever) ask your teammates of colleagues to announce which side of the fence they are on. Not only are you putting them in a difficult position, by asking them to choose – you are sending feelers of starting a full-blown cold war, which, if nothing else, will get you in a tight spot with the leadership and higher management. What’s more, involving others to back you up actually shows how timid and under-confident you are – even if you think you are in the right.
Be The Bigger Person, Do Not Repay Evil For Evil
Take the high road, and even directly offer to resolve the tension, for the the team’s well being. Look at it this way; the situation is a win-win, for if the conflict is resolved, you will be appreciated for resolving it. And in the other case, if your rival refuses your peace offering, and fails to make amends, you are still lauded for making an effort.
Do Not Waste Energy On Rivalry, Pour It Into Your Work
The best way to make a point is to be good at what you do. Although resolution, and sustainable solutions to conflict are the best option to diffuse workplace rivalries, but when you work hard ,you prove your merit. This way, you win the respect from your critics and shut the mouth of rivals as well.
It is true that rivalry is en grained in our DNA, as humans are designed to compete for limited resources, little wonder then that such little things as dressing or looking better, getting a better appraisal, better salary, better knowledge or skills, or bringing a better idea to the table can be viewed with potential envy and jealousy. You’d be surprised to know how people don’t work to their full potential, or actually change their jobs because of workplace rivalry, By all means do not be the reason why someone quits a job
As an individual, your best shot at dealing with rivalry, is rising above it You won’t be able to please every person you work with, and you are bound to rub a few of them the wrong way – even if you don’t intend to. Hence, don’t fret over it .Good luck