There is a difference between getting defeated and feeling defeated.
Defeat does not always mean you have lost, no … Different people react in different ways.However, you have a choice to either dwell upon what went wrong,or instead try to focus your attention upon what you can do right next time.
here are some tips;
- Think about how you would have felt if you had not been defeated. Compare the two states, and consider what remains the same between the two outcomes.
- Consider writing your thoughts down. Speak to a trusted friend or family member about your feelings. You probably know how you best process emotions – so do what you need to do to come to terms with the situation.
- Bear in mind that while it is important to embrace emotions, it may be unwise to follow certain feelings (such as anger or self-loathing) to their logical conclusions.
3.Keep calm. You may have not been able to prevent your defeat, but you can control your reaction towards it. Take a deep breath, and try to be as levelheaded as possible. Remind yourself that what has happened has happened, and that you cannot change it. This attitude will allow you to be flexible and adaptable – and you may find yourself better at handling negativity and loss in future situations.
- You can move on by letting go, or you can move on by seeking retribution. Letting go will release you from your defeat, while the quest for retribution will only tie you to the defeat.
- Let go of self-judgment. Accept that failure is merely a part of life. People have and will always deal with defeat – it is a matter of perspective.
finally, If you can take loss as a learning experience rather than an abject failure, then you can transcend what happened and move on with your life. You may have been defeated, but you need not be defeatist ……….
You can finish tall, reflect and learn, and move on with a smile on your face, you haven’t been defeated. You’ve grown, and you’ve been taught a lesson. If you carry yourself in the same way any other time you are defeated, you’ll find it easier and easier every time – and you may come to realize that you’ve won in a different way: by improving yourself, and by learning.
- Try to take it as a premise that failure has a role in your journey. Ask yourself about the purpose of this failure; what you can learn from it; and why it happened.
- Think about why you failed, and whether you could have done anything. Ask yourself whether you unconsciously forced yourself to fail because you are unsure of the goal you’re trying to reach.
Remember, defeat does not always mean you lost, in fact it means you win in another way because if you handle it well ,it brings about growth.you lose only if you allow yourself to feel defeated.in life you win some,and loosev some, its what makes you whole. goodluck!