Before today technology evolved,drills, dynamite, and high pressure water jets, rocks were broken with handheld hammers.
The process of breaking open a boulder by hand can take a very long time. Imagine trying to split a rock in half using a sledgehammer.
You hit the boulder again and again and again but nothing happens. You don’t see any progress, which is extremely frustrating. But you keep swinging the hammer.
Then, on the 30th hit or maybe the 300th hit, the boulder splits in half. It seems like magic, but it’s not magic. It’s science.
Even though it looks like nothing is happening on the outside, each blow by the hammer is reducing the rock’s internal integrity. The rock is getting weaker. You just can’t see it.
Signs You’re About To Break Through An Obstacle
Obstacles are like giant rocks between you and your goals.
Some of these obstacles are definable, like difficult circumstances, negative people, and your own bad emotions.
Other obstacles are harder to define. Sometimes you don’t know what’s standing in your way.
Maybe all you need is a little more information or one more connection, but you can’t see it. And you can’t see anything changing.
This is when you start to feel out of control. Like nothing you do matters. Like nothing will ever change.
In times like these, it’s easy to sink into a state of learned helplessness.
Don’t give in.
Like rocks, most obstacles weaken without showing any obvious signs of weakening. But there are signs. You just have to know where to look.
Here are 7 signs that you’re about to break through an obstacle:
1. When you hear radio silence.
Being ignored or blown off is one of the first steps to having a breakthrough. Don’t take it personally. Just see it as a challenge.
No one can see inside of your head. You will have a vision for what is possible for your life far before other people do.
It’s your job to make other people see your vision. Stop expecting them to “get it” right away. They won’t. And the fact that they won’t proves you’re headed in the right direction.
Like Gandhi said, “First they ignore you, then they laugh at you, then they fight you, then you win.”
2. When they start laughing at you.
Being mocked or even feeling like a misfit can make you want to give up. This is normal. Everyone wants to fit in to some extent.
The key is to not let the desire to fit in keep you from having a breakthrough.
Public ridicule is the strongest sign that you’re close to doing something no one else has done before. It’s a guidepost—a North Star—for you to follow. But…
Make sure you keep chasing your goal, not the attention of others.
Don’t get baited into defending yourself and don’t fall into the trap of living to get a reaction out of others.
3. When resistance increases.
You’ll never achieve anything great if you’re afraid of conflict.
Stop fearing resistance. Start inviting it. Don’t be afraid of negative people and negative circumstances coming against you. Don’t be afraid of your own negative emotions.
Resistance to opening a new door in your life is always strongest right when you get to the door.
Very often you’ll reach out and grab the door knob only to find that 10 people are standing on the other side pushing against the door to keep it closed.
Keep pushing. Stand firmly in your position. Refuse to be bullied. Increased resistance on the opposite side of a door you’re trying to open simply means there is something of great value on the other side.
4. When you want to give up.
Don’t feel guilty for doubting yourself or your path from time to time. And don’t feel bad for wanting to quit. Instead, lean into this feeling. Because it means you’re close to a breakthrough.
Never wanting to quit is not a sign of strength, it’s a sign that your goals are too small.
If you find yourself laying in bed at night wondering if it’s all worth it—congratulations—you’re one of the few people who is actually doing something worthwhile.
Greatness comes at a price. Don’t settle for less. Stay true to yourself and your goals. See pain as a sign you’re getting closer to success.
5. When you feel like changing your goals.
Think of your biggest goal in life as a giant mountain peak.
No matter what mountain you’re climbing, there are going to be times when you want to stop and settle before reaching the top.
There will also be times when you want to get off the mountain altogether and start climbing one of the prettier mountains next to you. This is normal.
The higher you climb on one mountain, the better you’re able to see all of the other mountains. But that doesn’t mean you should stop climbing the one you’re on. It means you should start climbing harder.
Imagine how many other mountains you’ll be able to see and conquer once you reach this peak.
6. When you make a big mistake.
There’s a very thin line between a mistake and a “Eureka!” moment.
At St. Mary’s Hospital in London in the 1920’s was a Doctor called Alexander Flemming,he was a bacteriologist.One day, he returned from his summer vacation in Scotland to find his lab a disaster and many of his bacterial samples dead.
Dr. Fleming was growing a deadly strain of bacteria called Staphylococcus aureus and found that a mold called Penicillium notatum had contaminated his dishes.
After examining his samples under a microscope, he found that the Penicillium mold had killed the bacteria
Just like that Penicillin was discovered and Penicillin antibiotics were invented soon after.
There is a lot of information in mistakes. The bigger the mistake, the more information can be pulled from it. Start seeing mistakes as stepping stones to your biggest breakthroughs.
7. When you’re scared.
Right as you start to have a breakthrough is when you’ll want to shrink back the most. Because that’s when things get real. That’s when you have to step up and step into a new way of living.
Everyone knows they fear failure but very few people understand that they also fear success. By having a breakthrough—by being successful—you put yourself in the precarious position of having to live up to that success.
It’s okay. You can handle success. You deserve to be wildly successful. Most importantly, you’re allowed to be scared of being successful.
Changing your life is scary. But being afraid is normal. It’s just part of the process. It’s a sign that you’re having a breakthrough.
Breakthroughs are life-changing events. Moving forward often means leaving other people behind and even a part of yourself behind. When this happens, don’t be surprised if some of these people turn their backs on you. Don’t be surprised if your own emotions start to fight you.
Be forgiving of others because, in a way, you’re turning your back on them by moving forward. Be gentle on yourself because transition periods are always uncomfortable.
The good news is the pain of change is temporary, but the breakthrough that comes with it is forever.