Choose people who choose you. It sounds pretty straightforward, almost obvious, but if we really take a moment to step back and evaluate the people we choose to give our time to, we might be surprised that they aren’t exactly enriching our lives as friends are there to do. Have you ever heard the phrase you are the combination of the five people in your life you spend the most time with? Have you ever noticed you pick up certain habits, phrases or words that your closest friends often say? Depending on the situation, it can be a wonderful thing or it can be pretty detrimental. It s Amazing that you have the power to determine who you want to spend my time with, it doesn’t just happen. It’s a choice, whether we are conscious or not, that we have the ability to make every day.
Take a look at your life for a moment. Who do you feel the most authentic version of yourself around? Who can you let your guard down within an instant of seeing their face or hearing their voice? Who pushes you to be your best, happiest and care-free you? That’s your tribe. Find them and never let them go.
Your vibe attracts your tribe. Your vibe, or your emotional state, is easily felt by those around you whether or not you’re aware of it. The Law of Vibration states that everything in the world vibrates. Nothing is ever at rest. Even though it could seem that people around us are separate from us, that is simply not the case. We are intertwined with every human being’s energy on this planet. Not only do people, animals, trees, tables and food have vibrational energy, but our thoughts and feelings do. If you surround yourself with positive people with positive thoughts, feelings and vibrations, that energy is contagious. On the contrary, if you surround yourself with people who are resentful, jealous and negative, that energy is contagious, as well. Choose wisely.
Friends, relationships, family, teachers, hair stylists, distant relatives–you get where this is going right. Choose people who choose you. It doesn’t matter if they’re blood-related or if they hand you your morning coffee every day, each person you give your energy to greatly impacts your life, whether you realize it or not. The small moments, compliments, encouragements and smiles add up. Don’t chase people who don’t want to be chased. I’m not saying to disown your family or drop a class because your professor doesn’t believe in you, I’m just suggesting you place your energy in places that make you happy. Be kind to every person you come in contact with, but don’t invest in people who don’t invest in you. It’s essential to be picky with the people you trust and give your heart to.
Always keep in mind challenging people or situations are often put in front of us for a reason. Every friendship has its ups and downs, ebbs and flows, but once you come to the realization that a relationship isn’t serving you anymore, understand it’s essential to let that relationship go. Choose people who choose you, and watch your world flourish.
You don’t have to convince someone to love you. Healthy and genuine relationships shouldn’t be too hard to create.
And yet, we spend a huge part of our lives settling for mediocre—even downright toxic—relationships.
Is it fear of being alone? Is it the product of deep emotional baggage from your childhood? Or is this just how you think love should be?
Whatever your reason is, you should know that it’s not a valid excuse to continue giving your heart to someone who doesn’t deserve it.
You can choose to give your love to someone who completely loves you back. And there’s no shame in letting go of relationships that don’t bring any value to your life.
So here’s a reminder that amazing things can happen when you finally realize you deserve better.
1.When you know your worth, you don’t tolerate mistreatment
Before you can attract good people in your life, you first need to believe that you deserve to be treated kindly and with respect.
When you know what you offer on the table, you don’t tolerate bad behavior. You don’t create excuses for someone who keeps doing you wrong. And you don’t let it get to a point that it becomes toxic.
As Marilyn Monroe says:
“If you can’t handle me at my worst, then you do not deserve me at my best.”
You’d rather be alone than settle for a relationship that doesn’t make you happy.
2.The funny thing is, it’s when you learn how to be happy being alone, that you attract the right people
It always happens like this. When you’ve finally learned to be at home with yourself, that’s when good relationships find their way to you. Beautiful things happen when you find self-love. The world looks better. You can see through people clearer. And you have this deep confidence that no matter where life leads you, you’ll always end up someplace you were meant to be.
That feeling of completeness and self-security finds its way in every area in your life—including your relationships. You’ll start noticing that you meet kindred souls, people who have the same visions and goals in life.
And slowly but surely, you’ll build a life that is surrounded with love, meaning, and fulfillment.
3.Real love is gentle, kind, and supportive
When we’re young, we idealize love. We think that it should be earth-shattering, fiery, reckless. And anything less than that is just not good enough.
As a result, we keep loving people who give us that passionate, messy, unreasonable love—even when they’re not good for us. We naturally accept the love we think we deserve`
But you should know that real, genuine, healthy love is kind, gentle, and supportive. Yes, chemistry is important. But it should be more than just skin-deep.
You deserve someone who will fight your demons with you, not create them. You deserve someone who is willing to build a life with you, no matter how hard it gets. And you absolutely deserve someone who will always choose you.