Half Full Or Half Empty What Are You Grateful For
3 December 2019 Blog
Welcome to the month of December, Its been a long journey all the way from january and Now in the last month of the year one has to be truly grateful if not for anything else for life, indeed the gift of life is truly a rare privilege.
however it is not unusual for someone to choose to see the cup in their hands half empty instead of half full and consequently become ungrateful because the focus is on the negatives,
It doesn’t matter if the glass is half empty or half full… Be grateful that you have a glass, and there is something in it.
There is evidence that people who tend to think optimistically and who focus on the positives in situations are more likely to be happier and successful. When unsuccessful in a job interview, an optimistic person might conclude that they were unlucky or focus on what they learned for the next time, whereas a pessimistic person might conclude that they are bad at interviews and be reluctant to try again.
Optimists tend to under-estimate the effort it takes to achieve a goal and over-estimate how many times they will be successful, whereas the pessimist tends to be more accurate and realistic. However, we are more drawn to optimists and listen to what they say. Think of all the politicians we elect. We only elect those who are wildly optimistic and make many promises, most of which are never fulfilled. Yet we will never elect a pessimist politician (or even a realist) who more accurately describes what is possible and what is achievable.
The best type of optimism
The best type of optimism is one that is balanced with a little bit of pessimism. While largely thinking optimistically and being focused on the most positive explanation of events, sometimes it is helpful to think pessimistically. In particular, it is important to think pessimistically when you are making a big decision. Before committing to a new job, project or even a marriage, it is worth considering what are the negatives in this choice or person and/or how likely is it for things to go wrong? Considering the worst-case scenario and how you might cope with this is very important in weighing up whether to make a commitment and also in making a good decision.
Learning balanced optimism
How we think is largely a habit, so we can train ourselves to think optimistically most of time and to think pessimistically only occasionally when it is needed. Our positive well-being depends on being able to interrupt constant negative thinking and rumination which can have a serious negative impact on our mental health. There are three important strategies in developing a balanced optimistic way of thinking
Gratitude is about how you look at your world, how you move through your days, and how you experience your moments.
And it’s a choice and a fundamental value. If you want to make the fullest use of your time, it is also a simple-yet-powerful time and energy management tool.
gratitude has been defined as “an enduring thankfulness that is sustained across situations and over time.” There are two types of gratitude, personal and transpersonal. Personal gratitude is about thankfulness towards an individual, whereas transpersonal gratitude is a constant and fundamental appreciation of the world.
Feeling gratitude is powerful and empowering. And extending that, it is also important to express appreciation to others specifically and frequently. So, how about taking stock?
- How many times a day do you actively thank someone?
- And how often do you feel the energy of awe and wonder?
As an informative exercise, extend this ‘stock-taking’ over time. Use a journal or diary (or just a pad of paper) to jot down times you feel grateful and what you’re feeling grateful for. After 3 or 4 weeks, go over your documentation and identify patterns in your gratitude. Also document lapses. Are there days when you are so absorbed in the activities of daily living that you “forget” life’s gifts?
What does this tell you? What happens to your energy? Do you habitually see the glass as “half empty” or “half full”?
Each night, right before sleep, list at least 3 gratitudes you are aware of for that day. These can be anything you notice and appreciate.
Follow through on this tip and action step:
Gratitude relaxes and energizes you.
Cultivate a glass-half-full perspective by writing a brief note of thanks to someone who’s brightened your day. Mail it without expectation of a response, and warm yourself with your own inner glow.
By telling someone, either verbally or in writing, how much you appreciate them and their choices, you create a path for a positive connection. You let the other person know that she has been seen and that her actions are significant to you. It is particularly helpful that you validate others in concrete, specific ways. For example, you might say, “I really appreciate your suggestions for revising my project. Your feedback helped improve the outcome, and you provided ideas in such a thoughtful way.” This acknowledges both the concrete tangible and intangible contributions that the other person made.
Genuine interactions such as these create a base of positive communication on which to build an open-handed relationship. Such validations demonstrate the sender’s lack of entitlement, which promotes harmony and goodwill. Learning to feel and then express your gratitude is, indeed, a gift. Notice how much easier it is to be in the moment when you are grateful.
- credit. www.irishtimes.com www.lifehack.org www.thetimefinder.com