5 Ways to Make the Best of a Bad Situation
28 November 2016 News
“Making lemonade out of lemons” is an adage we all have heard, but until one is faced with what looked like the worst nightmare of life, it really has no meaning .However,this phrase and the attitude it exudes can help one get through the darkest phases of life. The perspective invoked by this saying can resolve grief in the most positive of ways.
Here are some tips for managing the worst days and getting your groove back.
1. Put it in perspective.
Whatever is happening, will it matter a year from now? For some situations, the answer might very well be yes—e.g a health challenge—but in many cases, it will be no.
2. What do you need to accept?
Accepting reality helps you cognitively and emotionally move on. For example, if your plane is already very late, do you need to accept that your prebooked transfers at your destination are going to go to waste? Make a judgment call about when you need to mentally switch from hoping Plan A might still work out to thinking about how Plan B will definitely work.
3. Be flexible.
In the date night example, once you’ve accepted that the play you’re sitting through isn’t likely to get any better in the second half, what are your options? You could sit through it, but maybe you’d have a better night overall if you bounced and went out for gelato instead? And if the recipe you tried for your guests is a dud, what’s your next-best option? Picking up takeout might not be such an impressive display of your culinary skill, but your guests may have just as pleasant an evening together as if the exotic dish had come out as planned.
4. Shoulda, coulda. woulda
It’s easy to beat yourself up and ruminate after something goes wrong. You may find yourself mentally playing out alternative realities, and what you could have done differently to avoid the mishaps or disappointments that occurred. If there are lessons to be learned, it usually doesn’t take long to identify them. For example, you might decide that the next time you plan to see a show theater, you’ll pay more attention to the reviews first. We all do things we later regret. But once you’ve thought about the most obvious thing you could’ve done differently, it’s usually time to move on.
- Understand that mistakes are okay
- Laugh, be spontaneous, and have fun
- Be authentic and accept yourself
- Be vulnerable and communicate with others
5. Be creative in your thinking; creative problem solving involves thinking outside the box and breaking away from fixed mental sets. For instance, how many ways can a concrete brick be used? What comes to mind? Maybe using it to build something, break a window, or line your garden are a few options. But there are actually unlimited uses if we think creatively. What about using it to work out, as a paper weight, or painting it for home decor?
If there is a problem, accept it, get creative, and work to find a solution.
Sure, sometimes it’s hard to break free of rumination and ongoing feelings of regret, disappointment, or irritation. But mentally projecting ahead and thinking about how you’ll feel if you do that can help. All in all, resilience is something that can be learned and developed as we learn more about our natural capacity to overcome life’s hurdles. It takes self-confidence to know we can weather the storm, self-discipline to make the needed change, and wisdom to find value and learn from the experience. Goodluck