5 Things Women Should Never Tell Their Husbands!

  • Hello lovelies, I am sure i got your ears twitching on this one, well. its not all that stuff you may have been thinking about but then,again,it is!
  • While disagreements are inevitable in a marriage, there are things you might be doing that make it worse. 
  • Psychotherapist Julie Hanks, LCSW, and executive director of Wasatch Family Therapist, said there are things we say to our husbands that can be detrimental to our marriage. Luckily, that can be avoided by choosing not to say certain phrases. here are the 5 most common ones we all may have been guilty of….
  • 1. “Let me show you how to do it.”

  • To a very large extent,men feel good about themselves when they feel competent about solving life’s problems,” Hanks said. “Stepping in and directing your husband’s behavior without him asking you to can send the message to him that he’s not competent. When offering a suggestion to your spouse on how to do something it can help to approach it softly with something like, “I have a suggestion for you, if you’d like.'”
  • 2. “My ex used to do it this way.”

  • Never compare your husband to someone from a past relationship, Hanks said, even in jest.
  • “The simple fact that you’re thinking about former relationships may be emotionally wounding for the man you love,” she said. “Unless your husband comes out looking like the hero, comparing him to past relationships is a no-no because it may leave him wondering if he’s good enough.”
  • 3. “If you really loved me, you would…”

  • This is an emotional trap for husbands, Hanks said.
  • “Using this phrase often makes [a] husband [feel] that he can’t win,” she said. “To prove that he does love you he has to give you what you want even if he doesn’t think it’s a good idea or he doesn’t want to. Even if it works in the short-run, he’ll likely end up resenting you sooner or later.”
  • 4. “Why can’t you just be more like…”

  • Couples therapist Amber Cleveland Lewter, LAPC, warns against comparing your husband to your friends’ or sister’s husband.
  • “You married your husband because you love him, don’t ask him to be someone else,” Lewter said. “This statement is likely to cause shame or anger, neither will motivate him and either one will probably cause him to shutdown
     5. “You’re acting just like your father.”We all have feelings good and bad about our parents,” Lewter said. “They are often more complex than others realize. While it may seem obvious to you that your husband is acting like his father or mother, the emotions that statement can bring are more complicated that you may realize. “

    In summary, the fact is No man wants his wife to tell him to “man up,” Lewter said.

  • “This is just emasculating,” she said. “Calling his emotional strength or manhood into question will be damaging to both his self-esteem and your relationship
  •  So there you have it, goodluck.

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