In Every facet of life, its usually very tempting to find yourself thinking someone else has a better job, a fatter bank account, a more beautiful house, a happier marriage, a more flashy car etc.
However, research has shown that couples who are in happy marriages have gained this status by learning to resist the grass is greener myth — i.e., someone else will make me happy. They have learned to put their energy into making themselves and their marriage better!Relationships — even the best relationships in the world — require constant attention, nurturing, and work. If you can understand and accept the need for constant attention and work in your relationship, you’re started in the right direction.
Here are some of the principles that govern them
- Happiness is not the most important thing. Everyone wants to be happy, but happiness will come and go. Successful couples learn to intentionally do things that will bring happiness.backwhen life pulls it away.
- Couples discover the value in just showing up. When things get tough and couples don’t know what to do, they need to hang in there and be there for their spouse. Time has a way of helping couples work things out by providing opportunities to reduce stress and overcome challenges.
- If you do what you always do, you will get same result. Wise couples have learned that you have to approach problems differently to get different results. Often, minor changes in approach, attitude and actions make the biggest difference in marriage.
- Your attitude does matter. Changing behavior is important, but so is changing attitudes. Bad attitudes often drive bad feelings and actions.
- Change Your mind Change Your Marriage. How couples think and what they believe about their spouse affects how they perceive the other. What they expect and how they treat their spouse matters greatly.
Relationships are about not only taking, but also giving. If you find yourself not giving very much, or feeling resentful of how much you give and how little you receive back, you may be in an unequal relationship where one side is taking more than they are giving. Couples must find a way to communicate regularly, openly, and directly about their needs, Trust and honesty are key.Never underestimate their power.
Love conquers a lot of things, but it is no match for living day-in and day-out with another human being (especially if you’ve spent years on your own).Prepare yourself for this challenge by choosing to argue only for the greater good ..which is to get to sound judgement regarding decisions about finances, kids, and career paths (you know, the things that might really matter to a person).