A very unpopular topic you would say at first glance, well i just thought it will be nice to have some material for the men outside the usual do and don’ts for the women ,I happened to come across this piece while going through some articles from www,famifi.com, This is amazing,permit me to share with you
- Maybe you got married and never imagined that you would have to deal with a rude and impolite spouse. You are disappointed, and every day of your married life has been torture. You ask yourself if you have done something wrong and if you are the one to blame. You surely don’t expect to live like this all your life, and want to do something to change the situation.
- Here are some things you can do to help create a better situation and influence your spouse for the better:
1. Don’t blame yourself
- Before all, you need to believe that it is not your fault. Each person is responsible for the way they react to a situation. It is common that impolite spouses transfer the fault and anger to the other. This is the attitude of someone who does not recognize his faults and does not accept that he needs to change.
2. Create space
- If you realize that the show will start, take a step away to get some fresh air. Without an audience, he may stop.
3. Avoid getting offended
- It is not easy to not get offended while listening to harsh words. But if you recognize in your mind that he is wrong and not you, it will be easier to not get offended.
4. Respond differently
- If he is rude with you, respond with a soft voice and a smiling face. It usually works perfectly.
5. Give him a hug
- This also usually works. If your spouse is angry and is insulting you, give him hug. Tell your spouse you love him/her.(This one is hard , but im sure the experts know what they are talking about so who am Ito say otherwise) It is also possible that your spouse, most likely, is not rude all of the time. So deal with more complex subjects, such as family finances, when he is in his best mood.Here are questions you should ask
- Do you think it is normal for a person to act rudely, especially to your own spouse?
- How do you think I feel living under emotional abuse all the time? How would you feel if you were me?
- How long do you think my love for you will last like this?
- Do you think you need to change?
- What can I do to help