Why is it that people have trouble understanding that not every one can be the same? we are all wired differently and its not by accident that God made it so. never be afraid to be different. never trade your authenticity for acceptance
If you’ve been walking somebody else’s path for years,because you were tired of being judged and decided to “Belong” rather than Stand Out like you were created to , don’t think it’s too late to find yourself back to your path and fully embrace it. You can choose to embrace your path at any point in your life because it’s always waiting for you.
Here are 5 steps from www.livepurposefullynow.com you can implement today to get back on track.
1. Figure out what’s unique about you
When you’re focused on conforming to the expectations of others in order to please, you lose sight of your own values and what’s unique about you.
This is the hardest step because the harsh reality is that most of us don’t truly love or fully accept who we are.
We spend most of our time and money trying to mold ourselves to conform to the expectations of our culture.
We’re exposed to hundreds of commercials in the media daily tell us we’re too old, too fat, too skinny, too loud, too quiet, too black, too white, too aggressive, too sensitive.
And the list can go on and on. But if you’re going to embrace your own path, you must be willing to fully embrace all of who you are.
This includes all your perceived faults and imperfections.
2. Let go the values and expectations of others
You may be walking the path of another person without even knowing it. You may have unconsciously internalized the desires of parent, someone you admire, or the culture in general.
These unconscious expectations can become so deeply buried in the psyche, that they become totally hidden from our view.
Once you begin the process of fully embracing yourself, you’ll begin to realize that you may have been on somebody else’s path for years, even decades. This may trigger feelings of intense anger, bitterness, discouragement, even hopelessness. But know that this awakening is truly a reason to celebrate.
3. Worry less about what others think of you
I know, much easier said than done.
The truth is that we are social beings to our core. And being highly social is the one evolutionary trait that caused us to be the most successful species on the planet.
But being social has a few drawbacks too. One of them is our tendency to worry incessantly about what others think of us. It makes sense.
Being rejected by the social group is hard,individuals need social support systems to survive. Being rejected by our social groups can be demoralizing
But if you can work through the difficult emotions when you feel rejected for being yourself, you’ll find that you have others who support you, and share in your vision for yourself.Perhaps too you may be in the wrong social group consider a change
Because whatever thoughts others may have about you, they do not belong to you. Let them go. You already have way enough on your plate.
4. If you must compare, do it right
Stop comparing yourself to others. You’ve probably heard this numerous times before. It’s great advice, except for the fact that we’re hardwired to compare.
It’s part of our social DNA and we do it all the time to make sense of our world – physically, emotionally, and spiritually.
So how do you curb your natural instinct to compare?
Don’t try to fight it outright because you’ll lose. Instead, when feelings of inadequacy and jealousy start to arise in you as you compare, turn these feelings into admiration and gratitude.
Celebrate their successes and express gratitude for the ways their accomplishments can inspire you to embrace your own unique path to your own version of success.Let it propel you to finally define and pursue your very own success.
5. Be authentic
There are so many people in the world who settle for a life of conforming. It’s so incredibly seductive because it feels safer to go with the herd.
When you blend in, you don’t to risk drawing unwanted attention and ridicule from others. You may even accomplish some great things by following the path others set for you.
If you’re conforming in order to live out the dreams of another person instead of your own, you ultimately be unhappy and unfulfilled – regardless of your accomplishments. Being your authentic self will put you on the fast track to greater happiness and well-being.
How do you become more authentic?
Take the lists you created from the first two points and make them public by living out your unique attributes, values, and expectations. It’s time to stop hiding who you really are from public view.
Embrace your path to happiness
Why? Because when you’re walking the path you’re meant to walk, you’ll summon the strength to overcome any obstacle to your well-being. You’ll give others the courage to do the same for themselves. And you bring joy and happiness to a world that needs you just the way you are.