The answers to these questions will change your life, help you determine whether your life is headed in the right direction, give new meaning to your life, help you tap your hidden potential and open you up to new experiences.
Below are the 15 questions you need to ask yourself today and answer them genuinely
1. WHERE DO I WANT TO BE IN THE NEXT ONE, FIVE OR TEN YEARS?
While it is impossible to predict where your life will be a year, or five years down the line, it is important to have a plan of where you want to be in that time. Asking yourself this question allows you to set goals about what you want to achieve in your life.
Asking yourself this question will prompt you to decide what you want to achieve in your life. Your answer to this question should encompass all areas of life. Don’t just focus on your career or material achievements.
2. WHERE WILL MY LIFE BE IN ONE, FIVE OR TEN YEARS IF I CONTINUE DOING WHAT I AM DOING TODAY?
Fortunately, many of us already have visions of where we want to be in future, whether that is the next one year, the next 5 years or the next 10 years.
Asking yourself this question helps you identify the things in your life today that are wasting your time. It helps you identify things that you need to do in order to achieve your goals.
If there are people who are holding you back from going for your dreams, you need to cut them off, today. Otherwise, if you keep doing the kind of things you have been doing before, you will continue living the same kind of life you have been living before.
Like Einstein once said, insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.
3. WHAT IS MY WHY?
This question is important because it helps you identify why you are going after your dreams. If one of your goals is to lose some weight, why exactly do you want to lose weight? If your dream is to become CEO at your organization, why do you want it? What will becoming CEO do for you? Do you want it because of the associated status, or because the CEO salary will allow you to give your family a better life? Your “why” is a deep-seated reason behind your goals.
However, a clear “why” gives you purpose and motivates you to do whatever it takes to achieve your goals. Knowing your why also helps you make the tough decisions concerning your goals. A strong enough why will give you the fortitude to figure out the “what” and the “how” of achieving your dreams.
4. WHAT AM I GRATEFUL FOR?
In this life, we are constantly trying to make more money, achieve more and improve ourselves that we often take for granted what we have going for us at the moment. However, it is important to take a step back and be grateful for what we have.
Asking yourself this question will give you a dose of optimism and make you realize that your life is not as bad as you think it is.
5. WHAT ARE MY VALUES, AND AM I BEING TRUE TO THEM?
In this life, it is important to have values that guide you. Unfortunately, many of us never take a moment to identify what our values are. Values are your personal set of beliefs and ethical principles that guide your behavior and
Your values are the essence of who you are.
Why are values important? Values provide you with a framework for making the right decisions even in cases where the decisions might result in conflict. They help you know who you are and are the basis on which you develop your opinions on important things.
6. DO I WORRY TOO MUCH ABOUT WHAT OTHERS THINK?
Human beings are social creatures, and the need to be accepted by others is a normal part of being human. This explains why each of us feels the need to act according to societal expectations.
Worrying too much about what others will think about you, your behavior, you decisions and so on and trying to do what everyone expects of you can hinder your ability to think for yourself and make your own decisions. Instead of making your decisions based on what you want for yourself, your decisions will be based on what you think others consider to be right.
7. WHAT DO I WANT PEOPLE TO SAY ABOUT ME AT MY FUNERAL?
Thinking about your own death is not a very pleasant exercise. However, death also has a way of helping us identify the most important things in our lives. The truth is that everyone will die, including you. What would you want people to say about you during your funeral? Would you rather they talk about the expensive car you drove and your big mansion, or about how you made them feel? Would you want your children to talk about how great a dad you were, or how you they never saw you because you were always in the office?
No one will miss you once you are gone because you were the richest person in the family, or because you had a private jet. Asking yourself this question reminds you that you should not focus on pursuing success and riches at the expense of relationships and good character.
8. WHAT WOULD I DO IF I WASN’T AFRAID OF ANYTHING?
This is a question that only few people contemplate, yet it can have a very profound impact on your life. Many of us go through life timidly, with fear holding us back from going for what we truly want.
If your fear is keeping you from moving from your home town, go ahead and do it. If your fear is keeping you from trying your hand at being a singer, go ahead and give it a try. In the end, when your life is nearing its end, you won’t care about the things that you tried and failed at.
Instead, you will regret the opportunities you missed due to fear. Do not let your fears hold you back. Instead, face your fears and your life will become limitless.
9. WHAT WOULD I DO IF TODAY WAS MY LAST DAY?
Imagine that today was your last day on earth. Would you spend it mindlessly scrolling through Facebook or watching useless programs on TV? Not likely. Instead, you’d probably meet up with that friend you have been meaning to meet up with, spend time with your family, or go for that one adventure you have been postponing your entire life.
There’s more to life than working to pay bills and taxes. If today was your last day on earth, I doubt that you would wake up and head over to the office. Instead, you would do something that you have always wanted to do. I’m not saying that you should skip work today, but you should find time to do the things that you have always wanted to.
You might put off doing something because you think you don’t have time today, only to find yourself at 70 years without having ever done it.
Don’t put living your life to some day in the future when the future is not assured. Instead, live your wildest life today, because today is the only moment that you are assured of.
10. WHY NOT?
From when we were kids, we have been brainwashed by society that we need to follow the rules and live a certain way. That we need to fit in, keep our heads down and play it safe.
However, following this path often leads to an average life. Sometimes, you need to go beyond the confines of tradition and stop playing it safe.
Don’t accept the limitations people put on you. Instead, you should challenge the status quo and go for what others think is impossible.
If you look at some of the greatest people to have lived, most of them have looked at things that that seemed undoable and asked themselves “why not?”
11. IS MY SOCIAL CIRCLE INFLUENCING MY LIFE POSITIVELY?
Like Jim Rohn once said, you are the average of the 5 people you spend most of your time with. The circle of friends you keep around you influences your mindset, your behavior and your habits. Want to be successful? Hang out with successful people. Want to be confident? Hang out with confident people. Want to be happy?
Asking yourself this question allows you to evaluate the social circle you surround yourself with. Are they people that challenge and encourage you to be a better version of yourself? Are they people that are dragging you down with negativity and mediocrity? Letting go of your friends can be a hard thing to do.
If you are constantly surrounded by people who have no aspirations, you will eventually become complacent in your life because that is the normal kind of life in your social circle.
However, if everyone in your circle is constantly working to better themselves, you will be challenged to better yourself if you want to remain within the same circle.
12. AM I LIVING A LIFESTYLE THAT PROMOTES PHYSICAL, MENTAL AND SPIRITUAL WELLBEING?
To enjoy life to the fullest, you should live a lifestyle that enhances your health and wellbeing. However, when many of us think about health and wellbeing, we only think about the physical part of it.
A healthy lifestyle should focus not only on your physical wellbeing, but also your mental and spiritual wellbeing.
Asking yourself this question allows you to make choices that allow you to live a healthy life and enables to channel your focus to your mental and spiritual wellbeing, two elements of wellness that are often neglected. Good nutrition and exercise will take care of your physical wellbeing.
Reading and educating yourself continually will take care of your mental wellbeing, while things like religion and meditation will help you take care of your spiritual wellbeing. The important thing here is that your overall wellbeing depends on the three elements. Don’t focus on one and neglect the others.
13. AM I GIVING THE PEOPLE I VALUE MOST ENOUGH TIME?
Many times, we focus on the challenges of modern life that we forget how important it is to spend some quality time with the people we value most – our family and friends.
You should never be too busy for people who love and care for you. In the end, they are the only ones who matter. You might get laid off your job, the money and cars might go, but your family and friends will always have your back no matter what happens.
In addition to always having a circle of support, family and friends are also good for your happiness. People who spend more quality time with people they value tend to have higher levels of happiness. Spending time with friends and family even has a bigger impact on happiness than an increase in income.
14. DO I CARE MORE ABOUT HOW MY LIFE LOOKS OR HOW IT FEELS?
Today’s society is fueled by marketing and extreme consumerism. In a world where first impressions matter a lot, people see the car you drive or the clothes you wear and not your character or integrity.
Having the right image determines the kind of friends you will get, the relationships will get into and the kind of jobs and business deals you will get. Matters have been made worse by social media, where people are all about showing off how their lives seemingly are. This has led to a situation where most people are more focused on living a life that looks good, even if all this is a façade.
Today, keeping up with the Joneses has become a way of life. People are taking loans to buy houses and cars with the aim of looking successful.
While doing this might boost your image, it will have adverse effects on your life. Spending beyond your means to impress the masses can lead to a life of debt.
Apart from setting you up for a life debt, living a life where you care more about how your life looks can lead to lack of joy and contentment. Instead of being appreciative of what you have, you will be more focused on getting more so that you can improve your image.
Since you are so focused on getting bigger toys to maintain your image, you end up spending most of your time at work, which in turn also strains your relationships with family. You end up becoming distant to your spouse and miss seeing your kids growing up. Is this the kind of life you want?
Asking yourself if you care more about how your life looks or how it feels will help remind you that living a fake life to impress others is a walk down a treacherous path. It’s better to be rich and look poor than to look rich and be poor.
15. WHAT WILL BE MY BIGGEST REGRET IF I WERE TO DIE TOMORROW?
If you know you are going to die tomorrow, you most probably won’t care about where you lived, how much money you made or how many properties you had. Most likely, you will regret working so hard while neglecting your family.
You will regret letting fear hold your life back. You will regret living the life others expected of you instead of charting your own path. You will regret not going after your dreams. Asking yourself this question gives you a sober reminder of what you should be doing with your life today.
If you know the things you are going to regret when you are lying on your deathbed, why not do them today to avoid going out with regrets ?
May we live long, well and purposefully. Best wishes