To properly take a risk in life, it is mandatory that you operate in reality and take responsibility for your own actions (or inactions!). Until you do, everything you want will remain out of reach to you because it’s all controlled by someone or something else that won’t give it to you.
As a service to excuse makers the world over, the writter has gone to the embarrassing trouble of cataloging a list of personal and most frequent offenses (with help from a number of other smart Riskologists ).
Also included is a list of statements to correct your offenses. When you find yourself making a lame- excuse, simply stop yourself, recognize your blunder, and correct it by re-stating in the proper, reality-based form.
11 Lame Excuses You Make Every Day that are Ruining Your Life
1. I’ll get to it someday.
This is the one you use when there’s something you say is important to you but not actually important enough to commit to. someday is not a day of the week, and it never will be.
If it’s important—if it’s really important— give yourself a dead line to finish it. Otherwise, no one really wants to hear about it.
2. I need to get more feedback first.
This lame-ass excuse comes from a need for permission to do what you want. If you believe the value of the things you do comes from other people thinking they’re great, it’s unlikely you’ll ever find the courage to do something that you think is great.
The most important risks you take in life will always depend on your own opinion of them more than others’.
3. I don’t have time for that.
Have you ever noticed the people who complain they don’t have time for something are often the same people who complain they don’t have time for anything.
This lame excuse comes down to an inability to manage priorities. Everyone has the same 24 hours available to them every day, but not everyone makes the same choices about how to use them.
Rather than whine about how you never have time to do what you want, try this non-lame-ass alternative:
4. I can’t afford it.
I used to use this one all the time, and it was never true. It’s a cop-out I would use when someone would ask me to join them on a trip or ask me why I didn’t own the fancy-pants-whatever-majig that was popular that month.
The truth is, I can’t think of a single thing anyone ever asked me about that I actually couldn’t afford. I had the money but didn’t want to part with it.
5. That might work for some people, but not for me.
This is the lame excuse used most often by those suffering from “I’m a Beautiful and Unique Snowflake Syndrome.” It’s a horrendous affliction and, if you have it, I recommend addressing it immediately.
The root of the problem is in your inability to break down an idea (advice/directions/etc.) into pieces. Rather than looking for the parts of a story that you can use, you discard the entire thing the moment you run into something that doesn’t fit your unique situation.
People who excel at this can take a recipe for a spaghetti dinner and turn it into instructions for anything in life. Those with the syndrome don’t have the right pot to boil water in.
6. They have an advantage I don’t have.
This is the one you use when you think the only things that allow other people to succeed at what they do are the things that you don’t have access too.
This is one of the worst lame excuses there is because, over time, you convince yourself that you can never succeed at anything because you’ll always be lacking something that someone else has.
7. I wish I could do that, but…
This is a lame excuse I meet often . I regularly get emails from people who enthusiastically say things like, “I think it’s great what you do. I wish I could do it too, but [insert lame- excuse].
Here’s a good rule of thumb for understanding anyone’s real feelings: discard all words that come before “but.”
- I’m not a racist, but…
- Not to be rude, but…
- That’s all great, but…
- I wish I could, but…
8. I don’t know what I want.
Nothing more to say about that one. Here’s your alternative:
“I know exactly what I want, but I don’t have the courage yet to go after it.”
9. It’s not the right time.
This is the one you use when you’ve finally fessed up to what you actually want from your life but haven’t made the commitment to take action yet. Instead of just owning up to your own fear, you blame your inaction on the imperfect circumstance du jour:
- The economy is bad.
- I have too many other things going on.
- I don’t have enough education/whatever yet.
- I need to talk to an expert first.
There may very well be some things you need to take care of before it is the right time. But, in the mean time, don’t make lame excuses about things you can’t control keeping you from doing it.
10. They’re forcing me to…
I hate this one. It’s the worst because it’s the lamest of all. This is the one you use when you refuse to take responsibility for yourself and try to blame all your misfortune on other people who force you to do things or demand things from you.
The truth is—if you live in a free country—there are very few people who can or even want to force you to do anything besides pay your taxes, take care of your kids, and do things you signed your name to.
11. No one really cares what I think.
You’re damn right no one cares what you think. You haven’t given anyone a reason to care what you think. And no one’s going to care what you think until you prove that what you think is valuable to anyone else.
But fear not, there are two ways to fix this:
- Stop caring what anyone else thinks.
- Change what you think to be valuable to others.
In either case, you have control over both options!
Quit being full of excuses and take responsibility for your life. It’s the only way to navigate a risky situation. And fear is not nearly as scary when you’re the one in charge of it.
Your Homework Today:excuses are lame ,do not give yours feet so they can walk